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Preparing For The End Of Life, Decision - Home Or Hospital?



Nobody wants to think about dying, but it is one of the only sure things in this world. As many would say, you’ve been dying since the day you were born. It is hard to prepare for death, but harder still when it is that of a loved one. There may come a time when medical care will cease to be for treatment and become more about making passing easier on your loved one. When the time comes, how do you prepare?
When things get to the terminal phase, one of the first things which will need a decision is where your loved one will choose to die. For most, the decision boils down to the home or at the hospital where there will be medical staff on standby. If your loved one is conscious, they can make this decision. If they are not, a family member can make the decision for them. There is no right or wrong, it will come down to a personal decision and where they would feel happier to make their exit.

Your loved one may also feel the need to get some spiritual guidance during this time. Many people reflect on what will happen to them after the die, or struggle with the thought of what their legacy in life will be. No matter if a person is religious or not, they might need somebody to talk to about these things. Ask your loved one if they would like to seek the counsel of a priest, psychologist or a life coach.

Naturally, this will also be the time for your loved one to say goodbye. Even if they are feeble or unconscious, it would help to rally friends and family around your loved one and encourage them to express their love and gratitude to your loved one. If your loved one is in a delicate state or could do with the least amount of disturbance, ask people to come in one by one, to speak gently and to touch your loved one with care.

Most people who are about to die have already taken care of their last will or wishes. If this has not yet been addressed and if your loved one is conscious, you can ask him what he wishes to do with his possessions or even how he wishes to be buried. Possessions can be something as big as a land property, or something as simple as his favorite watch. A lawyer’s help will be needed in dividing property. Ask him whether he prefers to be buried or cremated.

When the time is near, your loved one will exhibit symptoms that will indicate it. They will probably be restless and agitated. In many cases they may also be in extreme pain. In these cases, there are pain medications strong enough to get them through the pain of dying. They may also begin to sleep most of the time, and refrain from eating. They may also begin to withdraw from social visits and cease talking altogether. You may also notice changes in their breathing pattern, such as pauses or gasping for air.

You may offer assistance to your loved one in different ways when this time comes. You can stay by their bedside and just make your presence known. Sometimes all that a dying person needs to know is that they are not alone in their final moments. Best of all, when the time is finally there and you know that the end is within sight, tell them that it is alright to let go and reassure your loved one that everything will be alright – with them and with those that they will leave behind.